Saturday, May 05, 2007

Your Children Are Not Your Children

I borrowed this from French Kitty.

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
- Khalil Gibran

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Jibran is always a favorite..

Nice blog,

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Om Luji said...

I try to remind myself of those words all the time. It is very hard not to force your kids into following your path. I didn't realize that until I became a mom myself. You want the best for your children and your experience makes you think that it will be a kind of protection for them. But I want to raise my daughter differently and I want her to live in the future not the past.
Thanks for reminding me of this once again.

Susan said...

Welcome, amerabian and om luji to my blog!

As my husband is Egyptian, I see a vast difference between the way my parents support me and my choices, in contrast to his own parents.

Carmen said...

I always envy people whose parents support their choices and don't force them into arbitrary boxes.

I like the blog change :)

Susan said...

Thanks, Carmen. I consider myself very lucky to have the parents I have. Any progress w/ yours?